Taken from a marriage blog I wrote for a short while. Edited so it makes sense in this context.
Proverbs has always been my favorite book in God's word. Maybe it's
because I like simple instruction or maybe it's my love for one-line
quotes in general. Either way, if you have ever read through Proverbs,
you get the idea that wise people keep their cool and fools don't.
Fools are hot-tempered, they are quick to judge, they are quick to
comment and I get the feeling the only thing they don't do quickly is
think.
Proverbs also mentions, multiple times, how awful living
with a quarrelsome wife is. The most horrifying comparison is in
Proverbs 12:4 "An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she
who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones". I couldn't imagine
being the cause of my husbands bones rotting!
Proverbs is the
reason I strive to be a calm wife. Who would want to be a fool or be
known as quarrelsome? Why would I, as someone who believes the Bible as
truth, knowingly be something that I know is against its words? And I
don't want to be the kind of woman who marries her favorite person only
to be a constant annoyance to him... or worse, a slow decay on his soul.
Psalm
46:10 has solidified my goals in being a calm woman when it says "be
still and know that I am God". I can't be still if I am not calm. I
long for the kind of peace that comes with being still and knowing God
and to experience a life with the simplicity of that statement. I
strive to walk in wisdom, live in peace, being calm and living simply
and being a blessing to my husband and those around me.
Proverbs
was the beginning, but being calm is more than just reading about it. I
am by no means an expert and I hope to never lose the humility that
comes with knowing I will always have to improve. Being calm is going to require prayer, action, forgiveness and patience.
